Two Months Later

   Though I am unsure of what exactly to write, here are some words. My parents have been blocked for exactly two months when I get contacted by both of my Grandmas that my mom was being rushed to the ER. Not knowing what it was for, cause I didn't see the voice mail until later, I immediately left work and drove to the hospital. Received a point for leaving an hour and fifteen minutes early to find she was alright. They had been trying to move junk and equipment away from the sides of a barn so it could be repainted when tragedy struck. The weight they were moving was a tractor weight that balances out a tractor when you add heavy equipment to the other side. While trying to stack one onto another, over a hundred pounds each, the strap holding it slipped and the weight landed on my mother's left foot. Thankfully she was wearing her steel toe work boots which took most of the damage. The Hospital said nothing was broken but were unsure if the tissue was damaged. Due to so much fluid on the foot from the blow they were unable to discover what all had happened. They told her if the toes get any bluer in the next three days to come back in, otherwise see her primary care doctor.

   For the time being I have unblocked my mom's number to know if she has any complications. After the hospital, I followed them home so we could help my mom into the house, she could not put any weight on it. Two days have passed with no word on the progress of the foot. However, while I was there, I learned where my parents' anger was now directed. My dad's mom. 

   Since my Grandma has a fancy phone and is unable to always receive their calls and messages they have directed their unspent frustration in her direction. Right in front of me I witnessed how hard they came down on her like they use to on me. They have not changed even in the slightest. Same anger directed at another family member. After her and I both made it to our respectful homes I reached out to her. Letting her know she had only not responded to my Valentines day message but all other messages of mine she had received. Encouraged her to continue to use the phone and service she wanted to, to not let my parents beat her down. 

   She opened up to me how they have been increasingly acting this way lately. Also that she does not feel that anybody understands that she is still grieving for her husband. My response was as follows: "No one can feel your pain but you. That's what makes it so difficult to relate to people cause no one knows exactly how another one can feel at any point, even if they have had the same trauma. Each person's normal is different from others too. For example, one person's arthritis may hurt more then the next person's in the same place, etc... I was hoping by new years of 2024 they would calm down but they have only transferred their anger towards me onto you. I wish they would seek help to understand their emotions better. They will have to learn if they don't want everyone to avoid them. I love you. You are not alone."

   There are some people no one can help. My parents may be on that list. They praise God for not having a more expensive hospital bill because the foot was not broken. A better diagnosis does not make the bill or situation go away. They thank God that I came and say we all have to stick together before releasing anger out on my Grandmother for not being able to control her technological phone (she has no control over when the phone works or how the coverage is working at any point). I wish they can learn from what they experience instead of repeating history in an endless cycle.